Meditations for the Masculine

If there is a crisis for the masculine, it is that he knows so much but has not properly acted on what he knows. If he does not know many models for doing any one thing, he can easily find one out. But that is only 1% of the job. The rest is actually doing. This is where and when the real work begins, where he has to learn, summon his courage, create relationships, solve problems, negotiate, cope with failure, etc. The masculine only kicks into gear once he begins. Before that, he is not even born.

True longevity, sustainability, endurance, and ultimately success comes from being able to surrender to what is happening. It does not come from fighting your way through. Fighting your way through something can work for short-term tasks, but whenever there is something great to be gained, it is going to take longer, and require far more of him than his muscle and aggression. Surrendering to what is happening can involve the following, and more: adapting differently to different situations, not looking good, learning new skills, being patient, allowing others to lead, serving rather than being served, investing time and energy, humbling oneself.

If he’s in a room with a group of people, the most attractive thing he can do is feel the group as one organism and do what he can to uplift the entire group’s life. Circulate, introduce, spend time.

Masculine discernment is about knowing when to invest energy and when not. The immature masculine often invests too much energy in the wrong places. Discernment allows him to strike the right target with full power.

We live in an age of information overload. Your decisiveness—your ability to separate what is right from what is not in each situation—is needed.